January 15th, 2005
Still More Mail: "I am interested in a Spirit
Session, but $200 seems way out of line. Can you lower this amount?
Something happened in my childhood that is keeping me from having
a good life. I want to find out what happened and have Spirit fix
it. Also, is there anything in my past life that you can fix to
make me less depressed and angry all the time. I haven’t much money,
so what will you charge me? Spiritual work really shouldn’t cost
anything." Praying you will help me, T.K.
Dear T.K. "To quote from an answer we gave to someone else -
‘What happened in your childhood was your childhood."
Think of all we are taught in childhood: We are taught what to
believe about family; strangers; relationships; love; marriage;
sex; money; God; who and what we should love or fear and hate; how
we should handle hate, anger, grief, fear, joy; what we should and
shouldn’t eat and drink; what we should and shouldn’t do and that
we should be punished when we do what we shouldn’t; how we should
act in public and in private; what and who we are and what and who
we aren’t; whether we are good looking, average looking, or not
good looking; whether we are smart, dumb, or average; whether we
are worthy or unworthy; , what we should and shouldn’t be when we
In short, what you chose to accept of what you were taught in
the first 7 or so years of your life are your core beliefs. No
matter what you think or say you believe now, it is the core belief
you have of any matter that manifests on the material, physical
The conscious thinking can change instantly. Not so with core
beliefs. These beliefs are closely guarded by the subconscious mind
which is the level of the mind in charge of carrying out the will.
Thus, your free will is only as free as your core beliefs.
To change a core belief you must first KNOW the core belief.
Think of your childhood. What do you know and what can you imagine
you were taught from the cradle to first grade? There are your core
beliefs. Changing these beliefs takes time and effort. Nor can you
do them all together. You must do them one at a time because you
will need all your wits about you to convince the subconscious to
change even one core belief. You must also have the attention of
the subconscious mind. You cannot be distracted by any other thought
than the thoughts you are presenting to your subconscious. Meaning
you must be in a very focused state of inward concentration. This
is a hypnotic state.
You must have your arguments ready. Then -
Lean back, close your eyes. To get the attention of your subconscious,
focus on your body for a moment. Listen to and feel your breathing.
Notice the blood flow in your feet, your legs, your arms, your hands.
When you focus on your body, without distraction, the subconscious
pays attention because it controls the body and is very concerned
with anything that affects the body, including your thoughts.
Begin speaking - aloud or silently - what you’ve chosen to say
in relation to a core belief. Begin with something like: "When I
was a child I believed ___________ because this is what my (mom,
or dad, or sibling, or parents, or father or whomever) taught me
to believe." Or "When I was a child I thought _______ was true because
that was what I saw with my own eyes." Then proceed with something
like: "I’ve learned mom (or whomever) was wrong about this." "Or
"I know now this is not true because I have…….."
(Have what? Seen differently, experienced it differently, discovered
mom and dad or whomever sometimes made mistakes, especially when
they just repeated what they were taught without thinking about
whether it was right or wrong for them, or for you?) Make your reasons
for changing this belief convincing to yourself. Other examples:
(I was a child then, I went along with what my parents thought was
right for me. I am an adult now, I know better what is right for
me because……………. (Because why? You listen to your inner truth? You’ve
seen better beliefs that work better for what you want? How do they
As you can see, it pays to have your thoughts and your defense
for changing the core belief worked out BEFORE you present these
to the subconscious mind. Think of it as presenting a really articulate
convincing summation to a jury so it comes back with the verdict
you want, which is: "Yes, your core belief has now been changed."
How do you know when a belief has been changed? If you are visual
(and many people aren’t), you will receive a symbolic vision. Example:
You see money being laundered or shinning sparkly and clean in the
sun after telling your subconscious money is not dirty - something
most of us are taught as children the moment we put money in our
mouths - so you don’t have to get rid of it right away as long as
you don’t put it in your mouth.
If you are not visual, checking with a pendulum will bring you
this answer, if you use the pendulum correctly. Meaning you keep
your mind blank when you make the statement you are testing. (See
How To Use A Pendulum, in the Treasure Chest on our website.)
The signs the subconscious has NOT accepted the change are easier
to read: You feel grumpy, anxious, upset, angry, depressed afterwards.
This is a sign some part of you is not happy about the change you
want. This part of you does not believe you. It believes what it
was taught. This is an emotional part of you that has had an experience
or experiences that are so convincing of the ‘old’ core belief that
this part of you thinks you are full of __________. This part of
you has to be talked with, not at.
This talking with is regression therapy. Psychoanalysis helps
you to understand how what happened in the past affects you today,
but it does not help you to change core beliefs unless the psychoanalyst
does regression therapy. Behavioral therapy helps you to discipline
your actions, but it does not help you to change core beliefs unless
the therapist does regression therapy. Name any therapy that is
helpful in some area or many and it will not change core beliefs
without regression therapy. Your subconscious must be convinced
of the need to change and if any part of you that resists the change,
this part must be communicated with and helped to find a
way to accept the change.
Sounds like a lot of hard work, even without regression therapy,
right? It is. Taking time for oneself is often the most difficult
thing a person can do. But…..no one and no spirit can change your
core beliefs for you. You must do it yourself, even when someone
is helping you.
A Spirit Session will not help you. The above will, oh, and the
spiritual work of altering consciousness is never free…..it takes
blood, guts and determination.
With Light, Pamela and Dr. Hugh
Have A Light Moment and Light The Earth